Such is life... Right?

Why is it that when you are interacting in different relationships people are always labeled as being “green” (gullible) or distrusting? Is there even a middle ground to that? It’s almost like its all or nothing. Maybe people just need actions to back up words but there are some things that may not necessarily be able to be shown at that time. What about those people who feel like they aren’t going to prove anything and if you decide not to believe what’s being said then its on you.

Here are two Japanese Proverbs that describes both extremes…

“It’s best to regard everyone as a thief” -Japanese Proverb

or

“You will never meet a devil as you walk through the world”-Japanese Proverb

Which idealogy do you live by mostly? Do you think that your mode of thinking is correct and healthy? Are you really having satsifying relationships as a result of the way you think? Challenge yourself to see life through the otherside… Maybe you will learn something about the people that you interact with on a daily basis. 

Are distrusters smarter because they appear to be less gullable or are trusters smarter because they are naive and appear to be less gullable?

Either way, they both can have pros and cons to different people. That definitely gives me something to contemplate on…

I am so sick of guys thinking they have the right to keep women in their back pocket… I mean, for myself, its quite obvious when a man is trying to keep me there as a possible future relationship while he is out there playing the field or simply not ready to settle down. In my case, they’re guys Ive once dated or been in a relationship with. For some reason, some of them think they’re going to get back with me. I don’t know how some of them get so bold and start thinking that they have me. Then there are the ones who flirt and aren’t really serious when they flirt around. Its all retarded.

I believe I make better friends with them verses people I meet on a daily basis. I never know what the other person is honestly thinking about having with me. I am pretty honest and straight-forward when it comes to my friendships/relationships with other people. I try my best not to lead a person into thinking that me and them could have a possible future together. I will admit that my flirting sometimes can be taken the wrong way. At times, I just like to flirt to kill time and get a few laughs. Ive been cursed out for it before. Lol. Fortunately, I don’t like to hurt anyones feelings. So I may not flirt back with everyone. There are guys who really wear their heart on their sleeve. 

I digress, it is what it is.. Play the game or be played!

My children are both products of me being in interracial relationships so-to-speak. My daughter is of Jamaican descent and my son is of Puerto Rican descent. Of course, I am simply African American. I know both of my grandmothers have Native American descent. I never really cared to pay attention to “race” until I kept being confronted by someone I’d consider “not black”. I am not and have never been a racist person. My family is beautifully made with a few interracial marriages and such. Most of the people are Asian. 

I love to see interracial relationships and it never really bothers me if a black man is with a “white” woman. Well, unless the black man is FINE. Then Id be like “Damn, why did he marry her?” jokingly. I love diversity! I believe that without people learning how to be diverse we limit ourselves and stay stuck in a box. Not to say that everyone should date another race/culture. To simply learn about it will suffice as well. 

I simply don’t limit myself to one race/culture. I try to think outside the box and challenge myself. I love all walks of people! I definitely don’t want my children to be ignorant to another race of people…